Re: Sexual harrasement at the office

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On 3/20/05, JOHN wrote:
> I have a bad problem at work. I and my life partner have
> moved here from Hawaii last July. My problem is I found a
> really nice job doing what I am best at. the thing is I
> am being humiliated at worK. I have been called a fag,
> asked how big I am because of my six foot 7 inch frame,
> asked if my partner and I sleep in the same bed, asked if
> we are married, and if we did it would be like real "fairy
> tale", asked if I liked it on the top or the bottom,
> comented on how nice my finger nails are and asked if I
> got them manicured regularly, I went to the owner of the
> company and he said that this is just guy talk and if I
> didnt like it he would fire me. we talked for a while,
> then he said that he understood that I was independantly
> wealthy, I told him that my bank account had nothing to do
> with the sintuation and that it was none of his business,
> he then added if I was a potential for sueing him he would
> fire me. Things had gotten worse for me at work and many
> other things had been said by the same person. I let this
> go on for a while and now I am sewing this man and the
> owner of the company that I work for. This was not my
> plan ever I have never thought of such a thing though now
> I can see how this can happen. It is very hurtfull and
> humiliating. It has come out that the owner has been a
> huge part in all of this. I am still working for the same
> company. He can not fire me because of the legality of it
> and I no this is driving him in sane. My real problem is
> I feel like a theif for doing this. the case is supposed
> to close next wednesday, the three lawers that I have
> hired on this say its all done and we are going to win the
> case. The other problem this owner will have to close the
> doors to the business as I will not say how much the
> proceeds are going to be, though there will also be a lean
> put on his house for several hundred thousands also. The
> town I live in is 75 percent gay so I have had a lot of
> support from the residents and go for it signs with my
> name on them posted all over the city. I don't need the
> money. I am wealthy through my investments so I am going
> to donate 100 percent of the proceeds from this to the
> desert aids foundation. Beleive me it will take care of a
> lot of sick people. My point is when any one is harrased
> in any way by an employer go after them some you people
> just let if go and things get worse. After wednesday I
> will be quiting my job. My partner is very cheered about
> it. We moved here for retirement and I could not sit
> still. After this I think I will enjoy life. I think I
> have put my partner through hell over this. He did not
> want me to go after the owner of the compay he thinks I
> am, very wrong for all of this. Hit them in the pocket
> book dont ever sit back this happens all to often and
> every one should be treated fair weather strait of gay.