Re: I am being accused

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On 3/24/07, Matt Hein wrote:
> I have been e-mailing a female that has shown feelings for
> me over the past several years(on and off). I am now
being
> accused of harrassment. She e-mailed me to tell me that
> she is sending the e-mails to the police, and that I
should
> get help. The e-mails had no forms of sexual harassment.
> She never told me to stop. She is also accusing me of
> looking at her when she exercises which is not the case.
>
> What are my rights? Is this harrassment?

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Another situation. In this case, the guy is the one who is
being harassed. This friend of mine is one of those sorts
who has trouble trusting people. And for the first time in
a long time, he thought he had found someone he could. The
problem was that the girl didn't fully trust him. She was
attracted to him, but didn't quite understand him. Perhaps
understandably so as the guy can be one of those serious
academic sorts. Perhaps she's never dated anyone like him
before because he has made some unconventional life
choices. Perhaps he's just not very good thinking on his
feet with someone he cares about in this way. Whatever the
reason, she felt the need to test him out. She put him
through one trial after another and then another and then
another. She would test him out at-work and at-home, during
the day and at night, with every type of electronic gizmo he
could imagine and certainly many others too. Through most
of the tests, the guy would not even acknowledge that he
knew he was being tested, hoping with patience he could win
her heart, not realizing all the while the effect they were
having on him.

But then one day things suddenly changed-- The girl finally
seemed to let down her guard (some). The guy didn't believe
it at first, but then she began to speak of her feelings for
him. I guess he heard his feelings for her too in those
words, you know, unconditional love kind of stuff. But by
then, the effects of the trials had taken their toll on this
guy and he had just flat out fallen out-of-practice talking
about this lovey-dovey stuff. Now, her guard is back up and
she won't tell him why. Look, the guy is just not himself
these days, and something he said could very likely have
been understood in a way that he didn't mean. But I also
know she has a wild imagination and some far-fetched notions
have passed through her head about him in just the last few
weeks. Bottom line, this guy is a good guy. If she would
only talk to him and get to know him openly, give him some
time to recover his game, she would quickly learn that too.

Any thoughts as to whether this situation constitutes
harassment? Forget the legal, I'd be interested in hearing
opinions of the human kind. Thanks.