Re: Crazy ex wife using ex's last name...

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Advice about what?

On 6/12/07, Christine wrote:
> On 6/05/07, Dana Neal wrote:
>> I can relate to your situation. I have a new husband of two
>> months and he has two wonderful kids...ages 15 and 12. The
>> four of us get along great and aside from normal teenage
>> stuff, are one big happy family! His ex on the other hand
>> reminds us of Mr. Potter from the movie It' a Wonderful Life.
>> She is narcissistic and truly thinks the world revolves around
>> her. She will call and yell at the most stupid things that
>> have nothing to do with us. I feel pity for her because she
>> is a sad person. I think that she is miserable and tries to
>> take it out on anyone who will listen. Her kids think that
>> she is crazy and even say that. We have them half the time
>> and would love to have them full time. We try to build them
>> up and care for them when we have them and spend the first day
>> or two de-programming her lack of parenting. She doesn't
>> realize that she is just shooting herself in the foot by her
>> actions. We do the right thing and never say anything bad
>> about her in front of the kids. They vent sometimes, but we
>> know they will appreciate us more if we remain silent. We do
>> this for the kids. I keep thinking, in 6 years they will be
>> in college and we will not have to talk to her much then...she
>> will be a sad, lonely, miserable old lady because of how she
>> acts! If there are others in my boat...get the book "The
>> Single Girls Guide to Marrying a Man, his Kids and his
>> Ex"...it is so funny and helpful in dealing with crazy ex's!!
>> Good luck to you all! We can do it!
>>
>>
>> On 5/02/07, shar denison wrote:
>>> I read this and kept shaking my head YES. I totally feel
>>> for you. I have one son and my new husband has 2 kids, a 9
>>> and a 12 year old. When they are with us they are totally
>>> fine. but if she is around they totally hate me and think
>>> that I'm to blame for their moms unhappiness. When we go to
>>> watch the kids at their activities she won't allow the kids
>>> to say hi to us or even make eye contact. His daughter's
>>> friend came and talked to us one time and when she went back
>>> over to the ex-wife she called her 12 year old friend a
>>> traitor. the kids will not talk to me if their mom is
>>> there. It breaks my heart because I love them so much. She
>>> has sent me numerous text and called saying profanity and
>>> cruel things. It's so hard for me to deal with as an
>>> adult...I feel so bad for those poor kids. they have to
>>> change their entire personalities when she's not around. My
>>> husband and i do everything for the kids and have them a lot
>>> he pays her $2,500 a month in alimony and child support (we
>>> are fine paying the $1000 of child support). He didn't get
>>> a lawyer because he just couldn't handle fighting with her
>>> any more. which wasn't smart. He ended up with all the
>>> debt, paying off her car plus, the monthly fee. PLUS they
>>> were only married 2 years and she put 10 in the papers.
>>> they were married before and got divorced, then after a year
>>> remarried only for 2 years. His bad for not looking.
>>> Anyway, my son is doing so well. I know it's because my ex
>>> and I are civil and talk to each other at games etc. it
>>> makes such a HUGE difference when the other parent is
>>> supportive. I wish you luck. I just take it a day at a
>>> time.
>>>
>>>
>>> On 4/11/07, Jay wrote:
>>>> What is the law on forcing an ex wife to legally change
>>>> her name back to her own? I am about to marry my fianc�
>>>> and his ex wife has nothing better to do than CAPITALIZE
>>>> her last name in all documents that come to me so I am
>>>> forced to view it as her last name, not mine. And though
>>>> I should ignore it, she gives the last name�well� a bad
>>>> name! It is not a very common last name so many people in
>>>> town associate her poor behavior with me and/or my fianc�
>>>> and it is quite embarrassing. Not to mention the rest of
>>>> my fianc�s family that hates her using their name, and
>>>> using that last name with her oldest son (whom is not
>>>> biologically my fianc�s son and has nothing to do with
>>>> us). What is the law on forcing someone to change their
>>>> last name back for the sake of everyone else�s face (as
>>>> she puts us to shame�!!!)?
>>>>
>>>> And no, I�m not a crazy person spitting out negativity
>>>> about my fianc�s ex wife. She truly is a textbook, crazy
>>>> ex wife that has: stalked us, shouted profanities at us in
>>>> public, put the children in the middle and has verbally
>>>> abused her children into disliking me, for her own
>>>> gratification and selfish reasons.
>>>>
>>>> Also, when confronted with such a case, what are the
>>>> chances that a Father is given custody? I know it is hard
>>>> to prove but what does it take besides guts?
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> I have been dealing with a nutty ex wife for at least 3 years
> now. My husbands ex wife has literally stolen money from him
> (by having their income tax routed to an account without his
> permission) has stolen the numbers off the bottom of his mothers
> checks and paid some of her bills with it, has used their child
> by threatening to move away with him if anyone does anything
> about it, has done quite a few criminal acts along this line.
> Since he and I met, she has said some really horrible things
> about me, accused me (to my peers)of being on drugs - and I work
> in the medical field, and several other really crappy things.
> She does this because I confront her when a situation comes up.
> No one else, including my husband, really addresses the issues.
> Mainly because they are afraid that she will try to keep the
> child away. Now, because I insisted he get an attorney, we have
> his son 7 and 7. She hates me and she tells the child that I
> have threatened to beat her up or kill her. I have never said
> anything like that to her, although I dont have good thoughts
> about her. I would never do anything to hurt that child. I
> just need advice on what to do because there is no reasoning
> with her. I really think she is nuts, but she recently locked
> on to a wealthy (but ignorant) victim, who works offshore and is
> rarely home. I can prove she cheats on him while he is offshore
> but I dont want the child to have to go through all kinds of
> drama if that comes to light. But I must say, my patience and
> tolerance is running thin. I need some advice!!!!