Re: has anyone experienced something similar?

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On 4/27/07, jane wrote:
> we have a teenage son who is currently in fostercare
> because he was truant to a few classes in school. he has a
> developmental disability but the school would not
recognize
> his 504 plan. they put him on a PINS diversion. of course
> part of the PINS conditions were to not get "in trouble"
at
> school. when he couldn't keep up with the school work he
> was told he was lazy and unmotivated and written up. well,
> once we was written up he was violated on the PINS
> diversion and put on a PINS petition. same thing happened
> again -- still cannot keep up with the school work due to
> the developmental disability -- so he gets violated again
> and put into fostercare. he did not go with a family
> member, he was put directly into a residential childrens
> home. we have been trying for the past 3 months to get him
> back home. he has done well in the different school
setting
> because the classes are much smaller and it is slower
> paced. the County has just decided they made a mistake in
> placing our son at the residential setting but will not
let
> him come home. this has been a very frustrating 8 months
> and his dad is very angry with the situation. the County
> has decided to use dad's anger against him and has
conveyed
> to us there is nothing we can do to get our son returned
to
> us. they are willing to give him to a family member with
> restricted access to his dad but we find this
unacceptable.
> our son's home visits, to this point, have been spent with
> us at our home, with no incidents. our lawyer keeps going
> along with the system rather than fighting any of this.
our
> son's law gaurdian seems to represent the County better
> than our son. we want to fire both and hire new to see if
> we can get better results. has anyone experienced
something
> similar? the bias against the dad is palpitable in the
> courtroom. dad has no criminal record, he is not abusive,
> he does not drink; yet we have heard rumors that this is
> what is being said by County workers involved in the case.
> what can we do???
I child does not violate pins because he can't keep up with
work..you are leaving something out that he has done or did
not do either way you want to look at at.You do dont get put
on pins because you are truant to "a couple" of classes,this
is for kids who CONTINUOUSLY skip school,get into
trouble,break the law ect.You said yourself that your
husband has shown anger so if he is having outburst then he
is indeed showing them he has anger issues and has given
them reason to doubt his parenting abilities.A law gaurdian
is there for the best interest of the child and could care
less about anything else...it's their job to do what is best
for your child.Your son sounds like he should be in a
special education class and most schools have them and if
they do not they have to make arrangements for him to get
special education it's the law in the "no child left behind"
act.You should be having regular meetings with the school
board and counselors to discuss his EIP or individual
education plan...a plan set up to best address your sons
issues to help correct them.It sounds as if you are putting
all your sons missbehavior on his developmental dissability
and all the problems on the teachers and court.The fact that
you refuse to make your son take responsibility for what he
does is part of the problem...one of the biggest parts.Legal
advice is useless until you wake up.