Re: has anyone experienced something similar?

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On 4/27/07, SNY wrote:
> On 4/27/07, jane wrote:
>> we have a teenage son who is currently in fostercare
>> because he was truant to a few classes in school. he has a
>> developmental disability but the school would not
> recognize
>> his 504 plan. they put him on a PINS diversion. of course
>> part of the PINS conditions were to not get "in trouble"
> at
>> school. when he couldn't keep up with the school work he
>> was told he was lazy and unmotivated and written up. well,
>> once we was written up he was violated on the PINS
>> diversion and put on a PINS petition. same thing happened
>> again -- still cannot keep up with the school work due to
>> the developmental disability -- so he gets violated again
>> and put into fostercare. he did not go with a family
>> member, he was put directly into a residential childrens
>> home. we have been trying for the past 3 months to get him
>> back home. he has done well in the different school
> setting
>> because the classes are much smaller and it is slower
>> paced. the County has just decided they made a mistake in
>> placing our son at the residential setting but will not
> let
>> him come home. this has been a very frustrating 8 months
>> and his dad is very angry with the situation. the County
>> has decided to use dad's anger against him and has
> conveyed
>> to us there is nothing we can do to get our son returned
> to
>> us. they are willing to give him to a family member with
>> restricted access to his dad but we find this
> unacceptable.
>> our son's home visits, to this point, have been spent with
>> us at our home, with no incidents. our lawyer keeps going
>> along with the system rather than fighting any of this.
> our
>> son's law gaurdian seems to represent the County better
>> than our son. we want to fire both and hire new to see if
>> we can get better results. has anyone experienced
> something
>> similar? the bias against the dad is palpitable in the
>> courtroom. dad has no criminal record, he is not abusive,
>> he does not drink; yet we have heard rumors that this is
>> what is being said by County workers involved in the case.
>> what can we do???
> I child does not violate pins because he can't keep up with
> work..you are leaving something out that he has done or did
> not do either way you want to look at at.You do dont get put
> on pins because you are truant to "a couple" of classes,this
> is for kids who CONTINUOUSLY skip school,get into
> trouble,break the law ect.You said yourself that your
> husband has shown anger so if he is having outburst then he
> is indeed showing them he has anger issues and has given
> them reason to doubt his parenting abilities.A law gaurdian
> is there for the best interest of the child and could care
> less about anything else...it's their job to do what is best
> for your child.Your son sounds like he should be in a
> special education class and most schools have them and if
> they do not they have to make arrangements for him to get
> special education it's the law in the "no child left behind"
> act.You should be having regular meetings with the school
> board and counselors to discuss his EIP or individual
> education plan...a plan set up to best address your sons
> issues to help correct them.It sounds as if you are putting
> all your sons missbehavior on his developmental dissability
> and all the problems on the teachers and court.The fact that
> you refuse to make your son take responsibility for what he
> does is part of the problem...one of the biggest parts.Legal
> advice is useless until you wake up.

I concur and as you said, something is not being told here. My
daughter was a special needs student and was enrolled in the
appropriate EIP classes and graduated 2 years ago. She too
missed a 'few' classes but was NEVER sent to foster care,
written up, or otherwise...NEVER!

Somethings amiss...