Re: has anyone experienced something similar?

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On 4/27/07, M'sta Mikey wrote:
> On 4/27/07, SNY wrote:
>> On 4/27/07, jane wrote:
>>> we have a teenage son who is currently in fostercare
>>> because he was truant to a few classes in school. he has a
>>> developmental disability but the school would not
>> recognize
>>> his 504 plan. they put him on a PINS diversion. of course
>>> part of the PINS conditions were to not get "in trouble"
>> at
>>> school. when he couldn't keep up with the school work he
>>> was told he was lazy and unmotivated and written up. well,
>>> once we was written up he was violated on the PINS
>>> diversion and put on a PINS petition. same thing happened
>>> again -- still cannot keep up with the school work due to
>>> the developmental disability -- so he gets violated again
>>> and put into fostercare. he did not go with a family
>>> member, he was put directly into a residential childrens
>>> home. we have been trying for the past 3 months to get him
>>> back home. he has done well in the different school
>> setting
>>> because the classes are much smaller and it is slower
>>> paced. the County has just decided they made a mistake in
>>> placing our son at the residential setting but will not
>> let
>>> him come home. this has been a very frustrating 8 months
>>> and his dad is very angry with the situation. the County
>>> has decided to use dad's anger against him and has
>> conveyed
>>> to us there is nothing we can do to get our son returned
>> to
>>> us. they are willing to give him to a family member with
>>> restricted access to his dad but we find this
>> unacceptable.
>>> our son's home visits, to this point, have been spent with
>>> us at our home, with no incidents. our lawyer keeps going
>>> along with the system rather than fighting any of this.
>> our
>>> son's law gaurdian seems to represent the County better
>>> than our son. we want to fire both and hire new to see if
>>> we can get better results. has anyone experienced
>> something
>>> similar? the bias against the dad is palpitable in the
>>> courtroom. dad has no criminal record, he is not abusive,
>>> he does not drink; yet we have heard rumors that this is
>>> what is being said by County workers involved in the case.
>>> what can we do???
>> I child does not violate pins because he can't keep up with
>> work..you are leaving something out that he has done or did
>> not do either way you want to look at at.You do dont get put
>> on pins because you are truant to "a couple" of classes,this
>> is for kids who CONTINUOUSLY skip school,get into
>> trouble,break the law ect.You said yourself that your
>> husband has shown anger so if he is having outburst then he
>> is indeed showing them he has anger issues and has given
>> them reason to doubt his parenting abilities.A law gaurdian
>> is there for the best interest of the child and could care
>> less about anything else...it's their job to do what is best
>> for your child.Your son sounds like he should be in a
>> special education class and most schools have them and if
>> they do not they have to make arrangements for him to get
>> special education it's the law in the "no child left behind"
>> act.You should be having regular meetings with the school
>> board and counselors to discuss his EIP or individual
>> education plan...a plan set up to best address your sons
>> issues to help correct them.It sounds as if you are putting
>> all your sons missbehavior on his developmental dissability
>> and all the problems on the teachers and court.The fact that
>> you refuse to make your son take responsibility for what he
>> does is part of the problem...one of the biggest parts.Legal
>> advice is useless until you wake up.
>
> I concur and as you said, something is not being told here. My
> daughter was a special needs student and was enrolled in the
> appropriate EIP classes and graduated 2 years ago. She too
> missed a 'few' classes but was NEVER sent to foster care,
> written up, or otherwise...NEVER!
>
> Somethings amiss...
I'm not sure what PINS is. in school suspension? alternative
school? a student can't get an IEP unless s/he has a qualifying
disability. OP said the child had a 504 which says he has a
plan to deal with certain things but there is nothing mandatory
in a 504. If the kid is truant, the court may find him/her
dependant and remove from the home but I've never heard of it
for only truancy, there's usually more to it than that.