Re: taking the kids out of state

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k, just read shar's post, you guys act like i want control, i just
want to know what our kids are doing, what they are into, where they
are, doctors, and stuff, things any normal parent would want to know
about. and i don't know any of it, because she refuses to tell me. and
she HAS threatened me with taking the children away as to where i
would never see them again, and thats one of the main reasons i want
to know, that and in case of an emergency. other than that, i don't
really care if they go on vacations, and long as they have fun.

On 8/02/08, sharwinston wrote:
> If the court order merely says that the custodial parent (CP) is
> to inform the non-custodial parent (NCP) of "important" stuff
> going on in the children's lives, then the court order leaves it
> wide open to interpretation what is "important." That is, what is
> important to you may not be important to her. (And, I highly
> doubt the court order says "important" stuff, since that is simply
> not any judicial lingo the likes of which I've ever seen. Court
> orders are usually specific, i.e. change of residence, change of
> school, medical incidents, like a broken bone.)
>
> What you think is "important" is irrelevant IF the court order did
> not specify what events of which you are to receive notice.
>
> Her taking the children out of state on vacation, in my view, is
> not something she should have give you prior notificaiton UNLESS
> it infringes on the visitation schedule/your visitation rights.
>
> If you want that specific term/condition in the court order, then
> you'll just have to go back to court and try to get the court
> order modified.
>
> ... once a control freak always a control freak.....If your
> children are constipated, do you need to be notified -- I mean,
> some hyper- or mega-controllers would demand to be notified of
> their child's constipation.... once a control freak, always a
> control freak
>
> On 7/18/08, amanda wrote:
>> Paternity is established, and she has full legal, and full
>> physical, with me only having visitation. But, it also says that
>> she is to inform me of importation stuff going on in the
>> children's lives, which she does not. and i think taking them out
>> of state on vacations, i should know about prior to, not after,
> in
>> case of emergency. All i want is to know where they are, and a
>> phone # in case.
>>
>>
>> On 7/09/08, sharwinston wrote:
>>> That is absolutely not true.
>>> He can not file for custody because he has no standing
>>> until/when he ever legally establishes his paternal rights to
>>> the children.
>>>
>>> As I said: Since they were never married AND if he has never
>>> legally established his paternal rights to the children under
>>> the laws of his state: They are her children and she can take
>>> her children wherever she wants, whenever she wants and he has
>>> NO SAY SO whatsoever about it. If he wants a say so, then he
>>> needs a court order saying he's daddy. Until then, he doesn't
>>> have any children to seek custody of.
>>>
>>> On 7/09/08, Christine wrote:
>>>> No, it is not legal for her to take the children out of
>>>> state. He should go immediately to file for custody of the
>>>> children, before she does. If she does take the children
>>>> out of state, he can have the police retrieve the children
>>>> (this just happend to my cousin with his daughter- mom and
>>>> child are now back in PA).
>>>> On 5/31/08, amanda wrote:
>>>>> hi i'm just wondering if anyone has any advice, my brother
>>>>> is only 23 and his girlfriend is 22 they have four kids
>>>>> together and after almost seven years they aren't working
>>>>> out. They are not married and have lived together the
>>>>> entire time. Now she is talking like shes gonna take the
>>>>> kids and go to north carolina (we are in PA) can she do
>>>>> that? or is it illegal?