Re: Child support or not?

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I never implied that it was just me that was going to do
something. I used the term "we". I may not have full say in
front of the judge but as me and my husband have a mutual
understanding that what ever decisions we make effects the
entire family unit. Everything we say or do means very much.
Ironically I was asked last time in court by the judge if he
granted my husband full custody if it would strain our newly
wed relationship to much. I guess I do have somewhat of a
standing. Also, as implied in the question WE do have an
attorney but I thought (silly me) I could jot a quick question
on this board and get an unbias and helpful answer while
waiting his call back.

As odd as it may seem, it will only take one letter to halt
the child support obligation. This information came from the
judges clerk, attorney, and CSR. They would assume by the
submission of a letter that both parties have consented and
agreed on the change of obligation. That one letter (not a
million)is enough.

This is the second time that I have asked a legal question and
it has been responded to in a negative manner due to being the
step parent. The last question was never commented on except
to ask how I pertained to the situation then it never went any
further. It is not just my husband going through this it is
all of us. It would be nice to ask a question and get a
response that is in some respect professional and
unopinionated based upon the relationship of the person asking
it.

Thanks

On 9/07/08, sharwinston wrote:
> I suggest your husband get an attorney becaue YOU have no
> standing and, thereofre, no say so in this matter. Nothing
> you say or do means anything.
>
> He can write 1 million letters -- they mean nothing. The
> parent or parents must get the court order modified. Until
> then, the court's order remaissn in full force and effect --
> no matter where the child lives.
>
> So, he can write all the letters he wants -- but it does
> nothing to change the court order. Only a court order can
> change a previous court order.
>
> On 9/02/08, Wendy wrote:
>> Short version: Husband has custody of son (15). Son wants
>> to live with bio mom. Creates a tornado by stating to
>> commit suicide if he doesn't live with mom. Turned over to
>> hospital. Hospital states for liabilty reasons to have son
>> live with a third party while taking med. and counseling
>> to try to solve problem. Son stays with grandmother for 2
>> days and moves in with bio mom against custodial fathers
>> wishes/knowledge and court order. Law enforcement refuses
>> to get involved to get son so now after 6 months of going
>> through the court system and son staying at bio moms house
>> she wants exhusband to write a letter to child support
>> explaining the son lives with her so she doesnt have to
>> pay support. Her attorney dropped her our attorney has not
>> called us back yet. It is court ordered for her to pay
>> support. She is in arrears of course over 10 grand. She
>> currently is ordered to pay on both children. The child
>> was never to go to her home it was not ordered or agreed
>> upon. He was to stay at grandmothers home. Where does he
>> stand legally. If he writes the letter she will inturn
>> take it to the school and alienate bio dad of information.
>> Oh yes, she also has a child support warrant on her. What
>> would you suggest we do?