Re: Child support or not?

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Your husband and you have an attorney and you want a quick
answer to an important legal question from a stranger on some
chatboard and then bitch about the free help you get & argue
about it to boot... well, why didn't you just say so from the
get-go that you were opinion shopping & I wouldn't have wasted
my time because you are obviously from the Land of "I want only
the opinions of those with whom I can agree." I've never been
there, but I hear it's a real fantasy.

On 9/09/08, Wendy wrote:
> I never implied that it was just me that was going to do
> something. I used the term "we". I may not have full say in
> front of the judge but as me and my husband have a mutual
> understanding that what ever decisions we make effects the
> entire family unit. Everything we say or do means very much.
> Ironically I was asked last time in court by the judge if he
> granted my husband full custody if it would strain our newly
> wed relationship to much. I guess I do have somewhat of a
> standing. Also, as implied in the question WE do have an
> attorney but I thought (silly me) I could jot a quick question
> on this board and get an unbias and helpful answer while
> waiting his call back.
>
> As odd as it may seem, it will only take one letter to halt
> the child support obligation. This information came from the
> judges clerk, attorney, and CSR. They would assume by the
> submission of a letter that both parties have consented and
> agreed on the change of obligation. That one letter (not a
> million)is enough.
>
> This is the second time that I have asked a legal question and
> it has been responded to in a negative manner due to being the
> step parent. The last question was never commented on except
> to ask how I pertained to the situation then it never went any
> further. It is not just my husband going through this it is
> all of us. It would be nice to ask a question and get a
> response that is in some respect professional and
> unopinionated based upon the relationship of the person asking
> it.
>
> Thanks
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> On 9/07/08, sharwinston wrote:
>> I suggest your husband get an attorney becaue YOU have no
>> standing and, thereofre, no say so in this matter. Nothing
>> you say or do means anything.
>>
>> He can write 1 million letters -- they mean nothing. The
>> parent or parents must get the court order modified. Until
>> then, the court's order remaissn in full force and effect --
>> no matter where the child lives.
>>
>> So, he can write all the letters he wants -- but it does
>> nothing to change the court order. Only a court order can
>> change a previous court order.
>>
>> On 9/02/08, Wendy wrote:
>>> Short version: Husband has custody of son (15). Son wants
>>> to live with bio mom. Creates a tornado by stating to
>>> commit suicide if he doesn't live with mom. Turned over to
>>> hospital. Hospital states for liabilty reasons to have son
>>> live with a third party while taking med. and counseling
>>> to try to solve problem. Son stays with grandmother for 2
>>> days and moves in with bio mom against custodial fathers
>>> wishes/knowledge and court order. Law enforcement refuses
>>> to get involved to get son so now after 6 months of going
>>> through the court system and son staying at bio moms house
>>> she wants exhusband to write a letter to child support
>>> explaining the son lives with her so she doesnt have to
>>> pay support. Her attorney dropped her our attorney has not
>>> called us back yet. It is court ordered for her to pay
>>> support. She is in arrears of course over 10 grand. She
>>> currently is ordered to pay on both children. The child
>>> was never to go to her home it was not ordered or agreed
>>> upon. He was to stay at grandmothers home. Where does he
>>> stand legally. If he writes the letter she will inturn
>>> take it to the school and alienate bio dad of information.
>>> Oh yes, she also has a child support warrant on her. What
>>> would you suggest we do?