Re: Child support or not?

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Yes, we do have an attorney and yes I did want some feed back on
the topic due to our attorney being in unreachable at the time. Up
until now, I didn't consider you to be a stranger, I considered
you as being someone with a helpful, knowledgeable, skilled,
professional, and educated advisor of family law on a practicing
counseling chat board. I am by far bitching about the answer I
received, and yes I did argue the fact of there being nothing I
can do but all in all I have not singled you out and acted as
though this was at all personal. I was mearly stating the facts
and I am sorry if that is something in your world you don't come
by much. I did not ask for an opinion but I got it anyway because
of my relationship to the question. I never indicated you wasted
your time but I do feel you need to know what was advised legally
about the situation so maybe you can help someone else in the
future. There are always different answers to one question. I
really don't understand why you take things so personal here.
Really, you could of saved your time with the sarcasm and meaness
and focussed on helping people. After all it doesn't take talent
to be mean although it may in your utopia.

On 9/09/08, sharwinston wrote:
> Your husband and you have an attorney and you want a quick
> answer to an important legal question from a stranger on some
> chatboard and then bitch about the free help you get & argue
> about it to boot... well, why didn't you just say so from the
> get-go that you were opinion shopping & I wouldn't have wasted
> my time because you are obviously from the Land of "I want only
> the opinions of those with whom I can agree." I've never been
> there, but I hear it's a real fantasy.
>
> On 9/09/08, Wendy wrote:
>> I never implied that it was just me that was going to do
>> something. I used the term "we". I may not have full say in
>> front of the judge but as me and my husband have a mutual
>> understanding that what ever decisions we make effects the
>> entire family unit. Everything we say or do means very much.
>> Ironically I was asked last time in court by the judge if he
>> granted my husband full custody if it would strain our newly
>> wed relationship to much. I guess I do have somewhat of a
>> standing. Also, as implied in the question WE do have an
>> attorney but I thought (silly me) I could jot a quick question
>> on this board and get an unbias and helpful answer while
>> waiting his call back.
>>
>> As odd as it may seem, it will only take one letter to halt
>> the child support obligation. This information came from the
>> judges clerk, attorney, and CSR. They would assume by the
>> submission of a letter that both parties have consented and
>> agreed on the change of obligation. That one letter (not a
>> million)is enough.
>>
>> This is the second time that I have asked a legal question and
>> it has been responded to in a negative manner due to being the
>> step parent. The last question was never commented on except
>> to ask how I pertained to the situation then it never went any
>> further. It is not just my husband going through this it is
>> all of us. It would be nice to ask a question and get a
>> response that is in some respect professional and
>> unopinionated based upon the relationship of the person asking
>> it.
>>
>> Thanks
>>
>>
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>> On 9/07/08, sharwinston wrote:
>>> I suggest your husband get an attorney becaue YOU have no
>>> standing and, thereofre, no say so in this matter. Nothing
>>> you say or do means anything.
>>>
>>> He can write 1 million letters -- they mean nothing. The
>>> parent or parents must get the court order modified. Until
>>> then, the court's order remaissn in full force and effect --
>>> no matter where the child lives.
>>>
>>> So, he can write all the letters he wants -- but it does
>>> nothing to change the court order. Only a court order can
>>> change a previous court order.
>>>
>>> On 9/02/08, Wendy wrote:
>>>> Short version: Husband has custody of son (15). Son wants
>>>> to live with bio mom. Creates a tornado by stating to
>>>> commit suicide if he doesn't live with mom. Turned over to
>>>> hospital. Hospital states for liabilty reasons to have son
>>>> live with a third party while taking med. and counseling
>>>> to try to solve problem. Son stays with grandmother for 2
>>>> days and moves in with bio mom against custodial fathers
>>>> wishes/knowledge and court order. Law enforcement refuses
>>>> to get involved to get son so now after 6 months of going
>>>> through the court system and son staying at bio moms house
>>>> she wants exhusband to write a letter to child support
>>>> explaining the son lives with her so she doesnt have to
>>>> pay support. Her attorney dropped her our attorney has not
>>>> called us back yet. It is court ordered for her to pay
>>>> support. She is in arrears of course over 10 grand. She
>>>> currently is ordered to pay on both children. The child
>>>> was never to go to her home it was not ordered or agreed
>>>> upon. He was to stay at grandmothers home. Where does he
>>>> stand legally. If he writes the letter she will inturn
>>>> take it to the school and alienate bio dad of information.
>>>> Oh yes, she also has a child support warrant on her. What
>>>> would you suggest we do?