Re: Child support or not?

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The tick's opinion of the matters only to the tick.

On 9/10/08, Wendy wrote:
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> by much. I did not ask for an opinion but I got it anyway because
> of my relationship to the question. I never indicated you wasted
> your time but I do feel you need to know what was advised legally
> about the situation so maybe you can help someone else in the
> future. There are always different answers to one question. I
> really don't understand why you take things so personal here.
> Really, you could of saved your time with the sarcasm and meaness
> and focussed on helping people. After all it doesn't take talent
> to be mean although it may in your utopia.
>
>
> On 9/09/08, sharwinston wrote:
>> Your husband and you have an attorney and you want a quick
>> answer to an important legal question from a stranger on some
>> chatboard and then bitch about the free help you get & argue
>> about it to boot... well, why didn't you just say so from the
>> get-go that you were opinion shopping & I wouldn't have wasted
>> my time because you are obviously from the Land of "I want only
>> the opinions of those with whom I can agree." I've never been
>> there, but I hear it's a real fantasy.
>>
>> On 9/09/08, Wendy wrote:
>>> I never implied that it was just me that was going to do
>>> something. I used the term "we". I may not have full say in
>>> front of the judge but as me and my husband have a mutual
>>> understanding that what ever decisions we make effects the
>>> entire family unit. Everything we say or do means very much.
>>> Ironically I was asked last time in court by the judge if he
>>> granted my husband full custody if it would strain our newly
>>> wed relationship to much. I guess I do have somewhat of a
>>> standing. Also, as implied in the question WE do have an
>>> attorney but I thought (silly me) I could jot a quick question
>>> on this board and get an unbias and helpful answer while
>>> waiting his call back.
>>>
>>> As odd as it may seem, it will only take one letter to halt
>>> the child support obligation. This information came from the
>>> judges clerk, attorney, and CSR. They would assume by the
>>> submission of a letter that both parties have consented and
>>> agreed on the change of obligation. That one letter (not a
>>> million)is enough.
>>>
>>> This is the second time that I have asked a legal question and
>>> it has been responded to in a negative manner due to being the
>>> step parent. The last question was never commented on except
>>> to ask how I pertained to the situation then it never went any
>>> further. It is not just my husband going through this it is
>>> all of us. It would be nice to ask a question and get a
>>> response that is in some respect professional and
>>> unopinionated based upon the relationship of the person asking
>>> it.
>>>
>>> Thanks
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>>
>>> On 9/07/08, sharwinston wrote:
>>>> I suggest your husband get an attorney becaue YOU have no
>>>> standing and, thereofre, no say so in this matter. Nothing
>>>> you say or do means anything.
>>>>
>>>> He can write 1 million letters -- they mean nothing. The
>>>> parent or parents must get the court order modified. Until
>>>> then, the court's order remaissn in full force and effect --
>>>> no matter where the child lives.
>>>>
>>>> So, he can write all the letters he wants -- but it does
>>>> nothing to change the court order. Only a court order can
>>>> change a previous court order.
>>>>
>>>> On 9/02/08, Wendy wrote:
>>>>> Short version: Husband has custody of son (15). Son wants
>>>>> to live with bio mom. Creates a tornado by stating to
>>>>> commit suicide if he doesn't live with mom. Turned over to
>>>>> hospital. Hospital states for liabilty reasons to have son
>>>>> live with a third party while taking med. and counseling
>>>>> to try to solve problem. Son stays with grandmother for 2
>>>>> days and moves in with bio mom against custodial fathers
>>>>> wishes/knowledge and court order. Law enforcement refuses
>>>>> to get involved to get son so now after 6 months of going
>>>>> through the court system and son staying at bio moms house
>>>>> she wants exhusband to write a letter to child support
>>>>> explaining the son lives with her so she doesnt have to
>>>>> pay support. Her attorney dropped her our attorney has not
>>>>> called us back yet. It is court ordered for her to pay
>>>>> support. She is in arrears of course over 10 grand. She
>>>>> currently is ordered to pay on both children. The child
>>>>> was never to go to her home it was not ordered or agreed
>>>>> upon. He was to stay at grandmothers home. Where does he
>>>>> stand legally. If he writes the letter she will inturn
>>>>> take it to the school and alienate bio dad of information.
>>>>> Oh yes, she also has a child support warrant on her. What
>>>>> would you suggest we do?