Re: Clarification

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Mama,
No, you're not stupid...Just uninformed:
1. You have no say so on who will be on the child's birth
cert. It's up to you daughter and will be done according to
your state's laws.
2. He can sign the birth certificate if he wants to &
neither you nor your daughter can stop him -- he can do it
now or do it later if he legally establishes he's biodaddy.
3. Neither you nor your daughter can "give up court-ordered
child support." The right to support is the child's and no
one can give up that right. The State will see that the
child's right to support is protected.

On 1/20/09, Pamela wrote:
> We live in Tennessee and my daughter is 16 years old and 6
> months pregnant. I was told recently that I may not want
> to add the father's name to the birth certificate so that
> my daughter will not be tied down to anything the father
> says regarding the child. The boyfriend has proven to be
> very controlling, even pushing my daugther into getting
> pregnant thinking I would allow them to get married so I
> wouldn't have control over her life. Yes, she's
> responsible, too, I'm not stupid.
>
> She will be continuing with her dream of becoming a
> surgeon and I don't want the father to have any say-so
> over where she studies and eventually takes a job. I
> understand that we will be giving up court ordered child
> support, but one outweighs the other.
>
> How do we do this? Do we just not have him sign the birth
> certificate or ask the hospital to not present it to
> him/us? If he's added, does he have to be proven an unfit
> father in court to have him removed later?
>
> Thank you.