Re: Clarification
Posted by Pamela on 1/21/09

Ok. I understand. My husband and I had a very long talk about
it yesterday, and even tho he's not the biodad of my 3
children, he's very involved in their lives and he is totally
against me and my daughter not putting the biodad of her baby
on the birth cert. Now that I know we cannot legally do it,
it makes me feel better that a possible life altering decision
will not be left in my hands.

Thank you so very much. You gave me one less thing to have to
make a decision about based on wrong advice I was given by
a "friend".

On 1/20/09, sharwinston wrote:
> Mama,
> No, you're not stupid...Just uninformed:
> 1. You have no say so on who will be on the child's birth
> cert. It's up to you daughter and will be done according to
> your state's laws.
> 2. He can sign the birth certificate if he wants to &
> neither you nor your daughter can stop him -- he can do it
> now or do it later if he legally establishes he's biodaddy.
> 3. Neither you nor your daughter can "give up court-ordered
> child support." The right to support is the child's and no
> one can give up that right. The State will see that the
> child's right to support is protected.
>
> On 1/20/09, Pamela wrote:
>> We live in Tennessee and my daughter is 16 years old and 6
>> months pregnant. I was told recently that I may not want
>> to add the father's name to the birth certificate so that
>> my daughter will not be tied down to anything the father
>> says regarding the child. The boyfriend has proven to be
>> very controlling, even pushing my daugther into getting
>> pregnant thinking I would allow them to get married so I
>> wouldn't have control over her life. Yes, she's
>> responsible, too, I'm not stupid.
>>
>> She will be continuing with her dream of becoming a
>> surgeon and I don't want the father to have any say-so
>> over where she studies and eventually takes a job. I
>> understand that we will be giving up court ordered child
>> support, but one outweighs the other.
>>
>> How do we do this? Do we just not have him sign the birth
>> certificate or ask the hospital to not present it to
>> him/us? If he's added, does he have to be proven an unfit
>> father in court to have him removed later?
>>
>> Thank you.

Posts on this thread, including this one

• Clarification, 1/20/09, by Pamela.
• Re: Clarification, 1/20/09, by sharwinston.
• Re: Clarification, 1/21/09, by Pamela.