Re: Unwed single mother

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I am not being way ahead of myself...nor have "I" created any
drama...He's made threats...obviously I'm worried...
And I didn't ask the question when is a good time to worry about
everything...I asked what are my rights as a single mother...He
is the paternal father...quite frankly i dont want him to be
it...the courts will find him as the father, so what are my
rights???
I'd appreciate it if someone with facts can respond to this
question, instead of someone with thier own irrelevant
uneducated opinions please...
Thank you so much for your help!

On 4/04/09, sharwinston wrote:
> This appears to be the 2nd time you've posted this same
> question. Why do you even listen to his threats -- they're
> nothing but flush material.
>
> You're waaaaay ahead of yourself.
>
> Visitation is a non-issue at this time.
> There's no issue of visitaiton until there's a court order
> issued by a court of competent jurisdiction that he has
> paternal rights. And, there's no issue of paternal rights
> until the child is born.
>
> Where he lives or who he knows or who he hangs with has
> nothing to do with any finding of paternity. If and only if
> there's a finding of paternity and he seeks visitation and/or
> custody, why don't you come back then and ask your question
> because no body here knows whether or not he'll get visitation
> becaue nobody here knows if he's biodad and nobody here knows
> what a court will decide.
>
> Geeze.... relax! Your unborn child's health depends on it and
> you're creating so much drama where your child isn't even
> born. A lot can happen between now and the birth. If he's a
> gangbanger, who knows what could happen to him -- and you
> might never have to deal with the issues you're dramatizing
> over right now. Relax! And for heaven's sake, stop listening
> to his garbage.
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> On 4/04/09, Anne wrote:
>> Also...the bio father has no job, no car
>> insurance, no medical insurance, and no place of
>> his own...he stays w/ his grandmother because
>> his parents only have a small camper trailer
>> that he can stay in, in their front yard...
>> I have a full time job, i live w/ my parents
>> still yet it is a 5 bedroom house and plenty of
>> room for my little one, i own my own car, and
>> have medical insurance which my baby will be
>> attaching onto as well...
>> I'm also going to mention, the bio father is the
>> pastors son and says he hasnt always been the pastors
>> son...and he is only 19 years old and i am
>> 22...I have a picture of him dressed as a gang banger
>> holding a gun...do i have more rights at this point that he
>> wont get visitation and if he does, can i
>> request they be monitored???
>>
>>
>> On 4/04/09, Anne wrote:
>>> I was wondering...If the biological father wanted an
>>> abortion, pre-nup, paternity test, then have the child
>>> given up for adoption...then threatened that even though
>>> he doesnt care about the child he'll do what it takes to
>>> take the child from me and threatened that he "knows
>>> people" who do him favors...will he get visitation
>>> rights??? He said all of this in front of witnesses as
>>> well...what are my rights against this as a single unwed
>>> mother trying to protect her unborn baby???