Re: waive parental rights

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For someone who supposedly has a BA in "Psych", you sure don't
seem to understand what kind of trauma and long-lasting effects
that your abandonment of your child would do to that person. If
you really wanted to see your child and be a part of her life,
then you would go back to court just like you did for child
support (I don't think you wanted to, but you HAD to) and get a
judge to order you visitation. I'm with Shar wholeheartedly on
this one, your motives ARE showing. Everything that she posted, I
concur with. Your efforts would be more fruitful in making--not
breaking--any kind of a relationship with your child.

You say that there are absent fathers who love their children.
Well, if they are purposely absent then they are NOT loving their
children. You have absolutely no idea how it feels to a child when
day after day, year after year goes by and daddy never calls,
writes or shows up to even say hi. You may be contributing to her
financial support, but that is not what she is going to remember.
She will remember that you abandoned her. She will remember that
you were never there for her in any way, shape or form and SHE
WILL HATE YOU. I'm sure that you have always found a way in your
life to make things happen that are truly important to you.

On 1/28/08, sharwinston wrote:
> Glad I didn't disappoint you.
>
> But why in the world would you even believe anythinng I write
> since "5 lawyers" already told you you can do what you want to
> do. When that happens, please mail me the court order. I'd
> like to see a miracle before I die."
>
> If the child's biomom should suddenly die, you can go pick up
> your child from the step-dad and there is nothing the step-dad
> could do to stop you (unless he had a court order, which is
> unlikely to happen, altho he might get a temporary--and I mean
> temporary). The step-dad has no rights to your child. Period.
>
> Bottom line: Step-dad will not adopt for whatever reason. Your
> rights will not be terminated unless there are statutory grounds
> for doing so. And, thus far, sir, you have stated none.
>
> Methinks thou doth protest too much.
>
> On 1/28/08, Harold wrote:
>> I was expecting that kind of answer from you Shar... yet I do
>> not understand why you answered in that manner. My real
> motives
>> are showing....??? my real motives are what is best for my
>> daughter PERIOD and nothing else... I NEVER said I did not
> want
>> to pay to support her, as I have supported her financially
>> since she was born. You mentioned what would happen if the ex
>> should expried unexpexctedly and my rights were gone. Well
> what
>> would happen if that did happen and I went to pick this child
>> up from her step-father. What psychological damage would that
>> cause on her... you can twist and turn my words all you want,
>> you can assume all you want about me and my motives. FYI,
> there
>> are absent fathers that do love their child(ren) and just want
>> what is best for them without having an alterior motive. I
> know
>> in my heart of hearts the reason I am seeking what I am
> seeking
>> and it is not for my benefit as you think. Another thing, the
>> step dad does want to adopt, but the ex won't let him as she
>> told me that all she cares about is making me pay.... Now tell
>> me who is really looking out for the best interest of their
>> child.
>>
>>
>> On 1/28/08, sharwinston wrote:
>>> If five AZ lawyers said you can do this, what more could you
>>> possibly expect to get from lawyers on a chatboard?
>>>
>>> But, since you asked, here's my $0.02: I disagree with all
>>> 5 lawyers. Parental rights are not "waived." They are
>>> terminated and only with a court order and only after due
>>> process to all parties involved and ***only**** where there
>>> are statutory grounds for terminating parental rights and
>>> only when doing so is in the best interests of the child.
>>>
>>> If the courte wer to terminate your rights and the child's
>>> mom should die unexpectedly, the child is left a legal
>>> orphan. This, sir, the court will NOT -- repeat NOT -- do.
>>>
>>> Now, if her stepfather wants to adopt your child, then
>>> that's another story. However, I find nothing in your post
>>> that the step-father wants to adopt.
>>>
>>> p.s. Your real motives are showing.
>>>
>>> On 1/27/08, Harold wrote:
>>>> Five lawyers in AZ said that I can do this and the judge
>>> will order it, I am just asking for some imput here to see
>>> if some of you lawyers say the same thing or something
>>> different. Thank you.