Re: Sexual harrasement at the office

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****I am straight but feel your pain-hang in there. I am
also being harrased at work and my employer ignored the
first complaint but hte 2nd was sent to hr but they can't do
anything because it is his word against mine. I am seeking
advice of attorney ven though I am broke, single, and trying
to raise my 2 kids. I am extremely nervous and scared.****
On 3/20/05, JOHN wrote:
> I have a bad problem at work. I and my life partner have
> moved here from Hawaii last July. My problem is I found a
> really nice job doing what I am best at. the thing is I
> am being humiliated at worK. I have been called a fag,
> asked how big I am because of my six foot 7 inch frame,
> asked if my partner and I sleep in the same bed, asked if
> we are married, and if we did it would be like real "fairy
> tale", asked if I liked it on the top or the bottom,
> comented on how nice my finger nails are and asked if I
> got them manicured regularly, I went to the owner of the
> company and he said that this is just guy talk and if I
> didnt like it he would fire me. we talked for a while,
> then he said that he understood that I was independantly
> wealthy, I told him that my bank account had nothing to do
> with the sintuation and that it was none of his business,
> he then added if I was a potential for sueing him he would
> fire me. Things had gotten worse for me at work and many
> other things had been said by the same person. I let this
> go on for a while and now I am sewing this man and the
> owner of the company that I work for. This was not my
> plan ever I have never thought of such a thing though now
> I can see how this can happen. It is very hurtfull and
> humiliating. It has come out that the owner has been a
> huge part in all of this. I am still working for the same
> company. He can not fire me because of the legality of it
> and I no this is driving him in sane. My real problem is
> I feel like a theif for doing this. the case is supposed
> to close next wednesday, the three lawers that I have
> hired on this say its all done and we are going to win the
> case. The other problem this owner will have to close the
> doors to the business as I will not say how much the
> proceeds are going to be, though there will also be a lean
> put on his house for several hundred thousands also. The
> town I live in is 75 percent gay so I have had a lot of
> support from the residents and go for it signs with my
> name on them posted all over the city. I don't need the
> money. I am wealthy through my investments so I am going
> to donate 100 percent of the proceeds from this to the
> desert aids foundation. Beleive me it will take care of a
> lot of sick people. My point is when any one is harrased
> in any way by an employer go after them some you people
> just let if go and things get worse. After wednesday I
> will be quiting my job. My partner is very cheered about
> it. We moved here for retirement and I could not sit
> still. After this I think I will enjoy life. I think I
> have put my partner through hell over this. He did not
> want me to go after the owner of the compay he thinks I
> am, very wrong for all of this. Hit them in the pocket
> book dont ever sit back this happens all to often and
> every one should be treated fair weather strait of gay.