Re: AN EMPLOYEE TRYING TO RUIN ME

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On 6/29/07, The Empathetic One wrote:
> I truly understand. Especially when you are being spoken of
> behind your back your manager doesn't allow you to defend
> yourself by bring it to your attention. Going to HR may
help
> you or damage you. It will depend on how much they care
> about assisting you in your matter. It may be best to go
> into a new job armed with the knowledge of knowing how to
set
> the tone with potential trouble makers before they get out
of
> hand.
>
> - - Good luck
>
> On 6/15/07, TINA MCALLISTER wrote:
>> I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHERE TO START. I HAVE BEEN WORKING AT A
>> BUSINESS THAT DOES NOT WANT TO TAKE CARE OF SITUATIONS THAT
>> KEEP OCCURING. I HAVE BEEN EMPLOYEED THERE FOR ALMOST 7
>> YEARS THIS JULY. I HAVE BEEN IN MANAGEMENT & RUNNING THE
>> PLACE FOR 6 1/2 YEARS. I HAVE WORKED VERY HARD & LONG HOURS
>> TO GET TO WHERE I AM. I HAVE 2 BOSSES ABOVE ME BOTH OWNERS
>> OF THE BUSINESS. I WAS TOLD 5 YEARS AGO THAT I WOULD BE A
>> PERCENTAGE OF OWNERSHIP IN THIS BUSINESS. HAS NOT HAPPENED!
>> I HAVE BEEN TOLD THAT IF IT WASN'T FOR ME THE BUSINESS
>> WOULD NOT BE WHERE IT IS TODAY. BUT, I FEEL LIKE I HAVE
>> BEEN USED & TAKEN ADVANTAGED OF. I WORKED THE FIRST 4 YEARS
>> HARD & LONG HOURS & HARDLY EVER TOOK A LUNCH. MY HUSBAND AT
>> THE TIME HAD GOTTEN SEPERATED IT WAS VERY DIFFICULT TO
>> FUNCTION WITH THE THREATS FROM MY EX. TRYING TO TAKE THE
>> CHILDREN AWAY GOING TO COURT TIME & TIME AGAIN. IN THE MEAN
>> TME I HAD A FEW GIRLS THAT I MANAGED. ENDED UP MAKING UP
>> LIES ABOUT ME TRIED TO GET ME FIRED. MY ONE BOSS WAS
>> BELIEVING THEM WHICH KEPT ME FROM GETTING A RAISE FOR THE
>> LAST ALMOST 3 YEARS. IN THIS TIME I KNEW NO MATTER WHAT I
>> SAID WASN'T GOING TO MAKE A DIFFERENCE BECAUSE MY ONE BOSS
>> IS THE MR. NICE GUY HE HAD TOLD ME HE WANTED ME TO BE THE
>> BAD PERSON & HIM THE GOOD. HE WANTED EVERYONE TO LIKE HIM.
>> THE ONLY PROBLEM WAS WHEN A SITUATION ARAISED HE WOULD MAKE
>> THE SITUATION OK FOR THE PERSON THAT WAS IN THE WRONG OR
>> NOT FOLOWING PROTOCAL HE WOULD SUCK UP TO THEM & TELL THEM
>> IT'S OK. THEN TELL ME A TOTAL DIFFERENT STORY. I FEEL LIKE
>> IF YOUR IN MANAGEMENT IT IS YOUR JOB TO OVER SEE ALL
>> EMPLOYEES & MAKE SURE THEY ARE DOING THERE JOB RIGHT. KEEP
>> FROM HAVING PROBLEMS. WE ALL ARE SUPPOST TO WORK TOGETHER
>> AS A TEAM. I FEEL LIKE HE IS THE ONE THAT TURNS US AGAINST
>> EACH OTHER. CAUSES MORE DRAMA . THE OTHER BOSS WON'T GET
>> INVOLVED IN ANY OF IT. IN FEBUARY I HAD A NERVOUS
>> BREAKDOWN. WENT BACK TO WORK & BASICALLY WAS DEMODED TO
>> NOTHING. HE ENED UP HAVING TO HIRE 5 & GET PEOPLE THERE TO
>> DO ALL OF MY JOBS. NOW I AM BEING AGAIN TALKED ABOUT BEHIND
>> & INFRONT OF ME OF THESE FEW EMPLOYEES THAT TRIED TO GET ME
>> FIRED. I WAS WORKING ON RUNNING THIS COMPANY THAT WAS THE
>> PLAN WITH THE ONE BOSS THAT CALLS HIMSELF MR. NICE GUY. SO
>> HE COULD RETIRE SOON. I HAVE TALKED TO BOTH ABOUT THE
>> REMARKS THAT ARE BEING MADE. I REALLY DON'T KNOW WHAT ELSE
>> TO DO . OTHER EMPLOYEES ARE NOT HAPPY WITH THE SITUATION.
>> THEY EVEN WENT TO BOTH BOSSES & TOLD THEM THIS IS NOT
>> RIGHT. THIS IS A BUSINESS NOT A PLAYGROUND. SHOULD I
>> CONTACT OUR HR & HAVE THEM THERE TO LET THEM KNOW WHATS
>> BEEN GOING ON? ANY ADVISE WOULD REALLY BE APPRECIATED
>> THANKS

I am truly sorry to hear about problems in your workplace. I
know firsthand on how it can be to have others gossip and make
up lies about you. I have had it happen in the workplace and
my family and I were harassed a few years back that devastated
us. Gossip and lies about us spread all over our
neighborhood. I could suggest you go to HR, but you have to
weigh it for yourself. In other words, if you go to HR, you
could suffer more distress from you co-workers, but then, if
you don't speak up, things may never get better. If it were
me, I would go to HR, in hopes things would get better. But
you have to decide what's right for you. If you would like to
talk more about this and maybe we can come up with a plan of
action, contact me and we will see what we can come up with.
I started an organization called, "Citizen's Against Legal and
Moral Abuse, Inc." to help others like yourself.

Citizen's Against Legal and Moral Abuse, Inc.
C/O Roberta Cutting
P.O. Box 1442
Zephyrhills, Florida 33539
rcutting14@sprintpcs.com
352-206-5787