Re: taking the kids out of state

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If the court order merely says that the custodial parent (CP) is
to inform the non-custodial parent (NCP) of "important" stuff
going on in the children's lives, then the court order leaves it
wide open to interpretation what is "important." That is, what is
important to you may not be important to her. (And, I highly
doubt the court order says "important" stuff, since that is simply
not any judicial lingo the likes of which I've ever seen. Court
orders are usually specific, i.e. change of residence, change of
school, medical incidents, like a broken bone.)

What you think is "important" is irrelevant IF the court order did
not specify what events of which you are to receive notice.

Her taking the children out of state on vacation, in my view, is
not something she should have give you prior notificaiton UNLESS
it infringes on the visitation schedule/your visitation rights.

If you want that specific term/condition in the court order, then
you'll just have to go back to court and try to get the court
order modified.

... once a control freak always a control freak.....If your
children are constipated, do you need to be notified -- I mean,
some hyper- or mega-controllers would demand to be notified of
their child's constipation.... once a control freak, always a
control freak

On 7/18/08, amanda wrote:
> Paternity is established, and she has full legal, and full
> physical, with me only having visitation. But, it also says that
> she is to inform me of importation stuff going on in the
> children's lives, which she does not. and i think taking them out
> of state on vacations, i should know about prior to, not after,
in
> case of emergency. All i want is to know where they are, and a
> phone # in case.
>
>
> On 7/09/08, sharwinston wrote:
>> That is absolutely not true.
>> He can not file for custody because he has no standing
>> until/when he ever legally establishes his paternal rights to
>> the children.
>>
>> As I said: Since they were never married AND if he has never
>> legally established his paternal rights to the children under
>> the laws of his state: They are her children and she can take
>> her children wherever she wants, whenever she wants and he has
>> NO SAY SO whatsoever about it. If he wants a say so, then he
>> needs a court order saying he's daddy. Until then, he doesn't
>> have any children to seek custody of.
>>
>> On 7/09/08, Christine wrote:
>>> No, it is not legal for her to take the children out of
>>> state. He should go immediately to file for custody of the
>>> children, before she does. If she does take the children
>>> out of state, he can have the police retrieve the children
>>> (this just happend to my cousin with his daughter- mom and
>>> child are now back in PA).
>>> On 5/31/08, amanda wrote:
>>>> hi i'm just wondering if anyone has any advice, my brother
>>>> is only 23 and his girlfriend is 22 they have four kids
>>>> together and after almost seven years they aren't working
>>>> out. They are not married and have lived together the
>>>> entire time. Now she is talking like shes gonna take the
>>>> kids and go to north carolina (we are in PA) can she do
>>>> that? or is it illegal?