Re: taking the kids out of state

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where did it say anything about her needing my approval? all it said
is that i would like to be notified beforehand as to where, when, and
a number at which they can be reached in case of an emergency. she
refuses to tell me anything at all about their lives. is there
anything i can do, besides take her back to court? i just want to know
whats going on with them. thats all.

On 8/01/08, M'sta Mikey wrote:
> On 7/18/08, amanda wrote:
>> Paternity is established, and she has full legal, and full
>> physical, with me only having visitation. But, it also says that
>> she is to inform me of importation stuff going on in the
>> children's lives, which she does not. and i think taking them out
>> of state on vacations, i should know about prior to, not after,
> in
>> case of emergency. All i want is to know where they are, and a
>> phone # in case.
>
> This is an older post but I just wanted to add a comment
>
> sharwinston is the expert here and what she posts is pretty much
> gospel; who loves ya babe :-)
>
> If you have a support/visitation/custody agreement with the court,
> it should spell out issues regarding visitation. My decree states
> that my ex cannot take the children out of the state or greater
> than a distance of 100 miles without my notification and approval.
> But you know what; it's not an issue and neither of us make it one.
>
> Honestly, she is definitely NOT going to bring harm to the
> children and neither am I. She takes them on cross-country
> vacations in her motor home and the boys love it. I'm not going to
> squelch that under any circumstances! She tells me that she is
> going take them from Michigan to Arizona (example) and I honestly
> envy them; I wish I could afford that. I could be bitter and put
> up a huge stink saying that she needs MY approval but the 'green
> monster of envy" has been laid to rest.
>
> No disrespect but it's not about you, it's about the children and
> what's best for them; it's what THEY enjoy!
>
> I'm not on that power trip. From a father's point of view; the
> more you pitch a b$#!&37;, the more she's going to push. And again,
> what harm is she causing except to piss you off? Is it really
> worth the grief and aggravation? The most critical question is;
> how will YOU look in your children's eyes if you deny them a
> vacation out of state because of your petty attitude with your ex?
>
> Things between a divorce couple are not always a bed of roses but
> don't be the thorn in their sides. I wouldn't sacrafice my
> children's happiness for anything in this world... NOTHING! Be it
> a mile or a thousand miles, their happiness is worth more than
> mere distance on a vacation.
>
> Bottom Line - it's not about either of you, it's about the kids.
>
> Just my humble opinion. I'll take my ball and go home now