Re: unwed mothers rights vs. fathers

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She is the one who made the baby with him now she has to face the fact that he has
rights! And FYI financial support has nothing to do with the father having rights.
Yes he should support his child but in the eyes of the court it is two separate
things.

On 1/20/09, Pamela wrote:
> Are you kidding me? She has every right in the world to make this choice for
> her child! If she knows he's not a good father, that he will not support her
> child financially, why should she bring the heartache of him being worthless
> upon herself and her child. There are several things she'll need to cover,
> like who will get custody of her child if there is no father listed on the
> birth certificate and explaining to the child beginning early the reasons she
> did not include its father in its life and promise to support any decisions it
> may make in the future to contact him, because we all know that people can
> change. To say the least. But why on earth should this woman, knowing what
> she knows, subject herself to the possible confrontations and court battles
> for financial support she may endure in the future? We are to protect our
> children, not throw them out there and hope for the best!
>
> And she KNOWS because she said she tested both men and the second one was
> positive. Duh!
>
> To ask why she wouldn't want a child to know its father, holy cow, sounds like
> to me that she has thought this through and is making an intelligent decision
> based on what she knows about this man. Again, it leads to the protection of
> her child. How many men and women do you know who have had long legal battles
> over their children because of deadbeat moms and dads?
>
> When people show you who they are, BELIEVE THEM!
>
> I have a 16 year old daughter who's boyfriend had been right with her every
> step of the way, until he turned 18, now he's rarely around, out having a good
> time with his friends. We are considering not putting him on the birth
> certificate because my daughter has plans to become a surgeon and we don't
> want this idiot to have control over where my daughter lives with the child in
> case she's offered a position at a hospital across the country.
>
> Yeah, call me stupid. Walk in my shoes and see this boy's character and you
> just may see what I'm seeing.
>
> On 12/29/08, Me wrote:
>> So how do you know for sure he is the father? Was he tested? If he was then
>> obviously he knows. Or are you just assuming that because the first one
> wasn't
>> the second must be. Just because YOU don't want anything to do with this
>> person doesn't your/his child wouldn't. Why would you not want the child to
>> know his father? YOU should not be making that choice!!!
>>
>>
>> On 12/27/08, krystal wrote:
>>> On 2/15/08, sharwinston wrote:
>>>> Do about what?
>>>> What's your issue with all of this?
>>>> If you want nothing to do with the alleged biodad and you want him to
>>>> have no contact with your child, then do nothing.
>>>>
>>>> On 2/15/08, Ashley wrote:
>>>>> I found out I was Pregnant at 27 weeks due to a huge mistake by my
>>>>> doctor. NO time to plan and that was very stressful much less the fact
>>>>> my whole life changed in one doc appt. I had to think about who was
>>>>> the father of my son and how to explain this to him. I had 2 men to
>>>>> test. The first was not a match, the second was positive and I didn't
>>>>> want him to have anything to do with my son. I decided not to tell
>>>>> him, and I now I fear that I will get into trouble. I just wanted what
>>>>> is best for my son. This man has 3 children and I have never seen him
>>>>> take care of them. And I have just learned that he has another on the
>>>>> way. I have excepted the fact that I am taking full responsibility for
>>>>> my son and don't want to have to face any problems, but I need advice
>>>>> on what to do. I am afraid to tell anyone because I don't want to mess
>>>>> up any relationship he has with his kids, Or do I want to confront him
>>>>> about my son, I don't feel he has the time or money to support my
>>>>> child, nor do I need or want any help. What should I do? Please any
>>>>> advice will do!