Re: Child support or not?

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The answer you supply mostly. Expected as usual.

On 9/10/08, sharwinston wrote:
> The tick's opinion of the matters only to the tick.
>
> On 9/10/08, Wendy wrote:
>>
>> by much. I did not ask for an opinion but I got it anyway because
>> of my relationship to the question. I never indicated you wasted
>> your time but I do feel you need to know what was advised legally
>> about the situation so maybe you can help someone else in the
>> future. There are always different answers to one question. I
>> really don't understand why you take things so personal here.
>> Really, you could of saved your time with the sarcasm and meaness
>> and focussed on helping people. After all it doesn't take talent
>> to be mean although it may in your utopia.
>>
>>
>> On 9/09/08, sharwinston wrote:
>>> Your husband and you have an attorney and you want a quick
>>> answer to an important legal question from a stranger on some
>>> chatboard and then bitch about the free help you get & argue
>>> about it to boot... well, why didn't you just say so from the
>>> get-go that you were opinion shopping & I wouldn't have wasted
>>> my time because you are obviously from the Land of "I want only
>>> the opinions of those with whom I can agree." I've never been
>>> there, but I hear it's a real fantasy.
>>>
>>> On 9/09/08, Wendy wrote:
>>>> I never implied that it was just me that was going to do
>>>> something. I used the term "we". I may not have full say in
>>>> front of the judge but as me and my husband have a mutual
>>>> understanding that what ever decisions we make effects the
>>>> entire family unit. Everything we say or do means very much.
>>>> Ironically I was asked last time in court by the judge if he
>>>> granted my husband full custody if it would strain our newly
>>>> wed relationship to much. I guess I do have somewhat of a
>>>> standing. Also, as implied in the question WE do have an
>>>> attorney but I thought (silly me) I could jot a quick question
>>>> on this board and get an unbias and helpful answer while
>>>> waiting his call back.
>>>>
>>>> As odd as it may seem, it will only take one letter to halt
>>>> the child support obligation. This information came from the
>>>> judges clerk, attorney, and CSR. They would assume by the
>>>> submission of a letter that both parties have consented and
>>>> agreed on the change of obligation. That one letter (not a
>>>> million)is enough.
>>>>
>>>> This is the second time that I have asked a legal question and
>>>> it has been responded to in a negative manner due to being the
>>>> step parent. The last question was never commented on except
>>>> to ask how I pertained to the situation then it never went any
>>>> further. It is not just my husband going through this it is
>>>> all of us. It would be nice to ask a question and get a
>>>> response that is in some respect professional and
>>>> unopinionated based upon the relationship of the person asking
>>>> it.
>>>>
>>>> Thanks
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> On 9/07/08, sharwinston wrote:
>>>>> I suggest your husband get an attorney becaue YOU have no
>>>>> standing and, thereofre, no say so in this matter. Nothing
>>>>> you say or do means anything.
>>>>>
>>>>> He can write 1 million letters -- they mean nothing. The
>>>>> parent or parents must get the court order modified. Until
>>>>> then, the court's order remaissn in full force and effect --
>>>>> no matter where the child lives.
>>>>>
>>>>> So, he can write all the letters he wants -- but it does
>>>>> nothing to change the court order. Only a court order can
>>>>> change a previous court order.
>>>>>
>>>>> On 9/02/08, Wendy wrote:
>>>>>> Short version: Husband has custody of son (15). Son wants
>>>>>> to live with bio mom. Creates a tornado by stating to
>>>>>> commit suicide if he doesn't live with mom. Turned over to
>>>>>> hospital. Hospital states for liabilty reasons to have son
>>>>>> live with a third party while taking med. and counseling
>>>>>> to try to solve problem. Son stays with grandmother for 2
>>>>>> days and moves in with bio mom against custodial fathers
>>>>>> wishes/knowledge and court order. Law enforcement refuses
>>>>>> to get involved to get son so now after 6 months of going
>>>>>> through the court system and son staying at bio moms house
>>>>>> she wants exhusband to write a letter to child support
>>>>>> explaining the son lives with her so she doesnt have to
>>>>>> pay support. Her attorney dropped her our attorney has not
>>>>>> called us back yet. It is court ordered for her to pay
>>>>>> support. She is in arrears of course over 10 grand. She
>>>>>> currently is ordered to pay on both children. The child
>>>>>> was never to go to her home it was not ordered or agreed
>>>>>> upon. He was to stay at grandmothers home. Where does he
>>>>>> stand legally. If he writes the letter she will inturn
>>>>>> take it to the school and alienate bio dad of information.
>>>>>> Oh yes, she also has a child support warrant on her. What
>>>>>> would you suggest we do?